tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post835148238620311035..comments2008-11-22T17:48:00.918-06:00Rob Rummel-Hudsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15462451435441751837noreply@blogger.comBlogger79125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-47062294985212263342008-11-22T17:42:00.000-06:002008-11-22T17:42:00.000-06:00Perfect response to such an idiot. I just read the part in your book about the woman at the store, when you were buying ice cream and I imagined for a moment I was there to speak out on Schuyler's behalf. People like that should not be allowed in public, idiots, idiots, idiots!!Heather Albee-Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00650438055821867030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-17028243889046729112008-07-20T09:57:00.000-05:002008-07-20T09:57:00.000-05:00First, let me say I just finished the book, and it's awesome!<BR/>After reading this post and the story in the book about the nasty lady in the grocery store (great comeback, Rob!)it just reinforces my belief that some people in this world have MAJOR big-balls, voicing their unsolicited opinions like that. Who the hell do they think they are, anyway??<BR/>My 5 year-old daughter has autism. Lkie Schuyler, she has her own "languauge". One day we were at the library and she was sitting in her stroller babbling away happily while I was on the computer. Yes she was a little loud, but none of the other patrons seemed bothered by it. A librarian came over to us and said to me, "It looks like your daughter needs some attention." I turned and giving her a "Who are you, the Parenting Police?" look, replied, "She's fine, thanks." Then the woman said, "Well, she keeps making those noises." Giving her another "Why don't you mind your own business, bitch?" look, I replied (with noticeable irritation) "She has autism, she makes those noises!" The woman got a dumb look on her face and said, "Okaaayyy..." and walked away. My teen son was with us and judging by the look on his face, he wanted to tell her to fuck off, which would have been cute in the library! I spent the next hour stewing over the whole scene. I should have said to her, "She has autism. You're in a library-why don't you go look it up??" I seriously considered reporting her to her supervisor. Under the ADA act, my daughter has the right to be in the library or anywhere else I choose to take her. I appreciated Rob's tip in his book to familiarize myself with the disability laws, because maybe next time I encounter a moron like this woman, I'll threaten an ADA lawsuit and enjoy watching THEM squirm.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-81961298176659868422008-07-12T22:31:00.000-05:002008-07-12T22:31:00.000-05:00This was the right choice. couldnt have done it better any other way.Cierrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15222277198735981009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-16379362441186024102008-06-02T00:20:00.000-05:002008-06-02T00:20:00.000-05:00You got that one right!! I would love to come up with a comment when I catch people staring at my son. Something quick, to the point, and something that would make them feel like complete shit. once they realize that the whispered comments, the double takes, and the obvious stares are inappropriate and hurtful. Yes something quick....yeah, F*ck you should do it!! Pretty much sums it up eh?! But if you can think of a good one for me to use so it doesn't look like I copied from you let me know! :) Something that will sting and stick with them long after we're gone. <BR/><BR/>Also to Galen who posted a comment...unfortunately people are just as judgemental to my son who is in a wheelchair & drools. Sometimes I just want to scream at them to stop looking at him with pity in your eyes. It should be that I look at them with pity in my eyes because I feel sorry that they are such a$$holes!Melaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14976460220405392152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-78902633653090639952008-05-29T12:33:00.000-05:002008-05-29T12:33:00.000-05:00Pretty soon she'll figure out a way to have those same 2 words on her big box so that she can use them as needed. No appologies needed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-79750107223543050342008-05-29T08:28:00.000-05:002008-05-29T08:28:00.000-05:00When I had my wisdom teeth out, I was told there was roughly a one in a million chance that they could hit a nerve that would cause one side of my mouth to be numb indefinitely. Surprise - I was a lucky winner! After I was caught several times with food on my chin (which I couldn't feel) by giggling friends, I spent the remainder of my high school years eating with my hand over my mouth.<BR/><BR/>The majority of the feeling in the right side of my mouth has slowly been restored, though not completely. So on behalf of droolers everywhere, whatever the cause... thanks for the heartfelt retort.Sarah Wnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-7807011013239052162008-05-25T18:56:00.000-05:002008-05-25T18:56:00.000-05:00One time I was nursing my little tiny crazy colicky baby, sitting on a bench in the Target. This woman walked by me and sort of stopped and looked at me and then grabbed her daughter's hand and said "ewwww!" really loudly. And STOOD THERE. So I said the same thing to her that you said, and even though I felt bad that her daughter had to hear it, I figured the hell with it. She's the one who let her daughter hear her say "ewwww" to me about breastfeeding. Ooh I was steamed and I am now again, thinking of you going through this. Good for you.Joannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00585179358306590340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-31426226435074830232008-05-21T15:30:00.000-05:002008-05-21T15:30:00.000-05:00Sometimes those are the two most perfect words, that was one of those times. Good for you!Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07325224715022828659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-86578395189196990782008-05-19T20:53:00.000-05:002008-05-19T20:53:00.000-05:00You absolutely did the right thing -- stepping up for your daughter, yourself, and venting some righteous anger are all cool things.<BR/><BR/>But I am a little disheartened by all the name-calling here towards this nameless woman at the restaurant. She behaved horrifically, but from what has been shared here we really have no idea what her deal is.<BR/><BR/>My dad's "brain monster" left him without his social filters and he would frequently let loose with racial/sexist slurs in public. He truly knew better, but he was sick.<BR/><BR/>So, um, there's that possibility.<BR/><BR/>I know I'm giving her a huge benefit of the doubt, but the truth is we just don't know what her deal was. She could have been off her meds, just home from the war, or, yeah, a horrible excuse for a human.<BR/><BR/>Defend yourself and your awesome girl at all costs, but I just don't know that it's useful to presume too much about this (at best) horribly misguided woman.Jeaninehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09058722514482075560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-8319968878923820382008-05-18T08:44:00.000-05:002008-05-18T08:44:00.000-05:00I don't know why we accept things so quickly, easily and with such enthusiasm as children, but adults, who have seen a lot of the reality of the real world and things that are different can be so ignorant, mindless, and stupid. <BR/><BR/>People like that need to be beaten with stalks of celery.Jennihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08567885257853378953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-37307989972067202022008-05-17T01:51:00.000-05:002008-05-17T01:51:00.000-05:00Correct response, definitely. <BR/><BR/>My husband said the same thing once to someone who needed it. I was so proud of him, once I was sure that the child-loathing guy wasn't going to go insane and shoot us all.<BR/><BR/>The monster is really beside the point -- I don't care if Schuyler was drooling for the total fun of it, she is a KID and people who think they have a right to never have to look at or deal with kids should either stay home, keep their mouths shut, or expect to be told to fuck off.electricboogaloohttp://www.electricboogaloo.net/wordpressnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-67348444954249217902008-05-16T22:11:00.000-05:002008-05-16T22:11:00.000-05:00I can't think of a better thing to say, Rob. Fuck her.Hethahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09185523086301601976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-91355516292726229802008-05-15T04:33:00.000-05:002008-05-15T04:33:00.000-05:00BTDT, but didn't say those words, but should have. My 9 year old drools enough to soak 2 bandanas a day. Kids at school just comment on her different colors and types of bandanas, and not her drool. I don't even think they notice anymore, and if they do, they wouldn't say anything to their friend that they all love. <BR/><BR/>Adults are not usually so nice. It probably is an adequate come back in some situations. Now, if you want the comeback the therapists all teach, it is "SO?" Can't argue with it, and there is no good come back to that single word!ebunny59http://www.blogger.com/profile/09013857763150545355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-38728161063634958072008-05-14T22:38:00.000-05:002008-05-14T22:38:00.000-05:00No, that was exactly the right thing to say.zorrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00301856272073306968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-74782524510668409512008-05-14T22:18:00.000-05:002008-05-14T22:18:00.000-05:00Fuck her, indeed. Fuck her twice. SHE is disgusting.<BR/><BR/>I really really hope Schuyler didn't hear her.Michellehttp://www.sapphireblue.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-63473645420411254572008-05-14T12:01:00.000-05:002008-05-14T12:01:00.000-05:00Jesus fuck. I agree with all and sundry that there was really no better way to address the situation -- if it had been me I wouldn't have been so succinct. "What the hell is your problem, bitch?" and "You're the disgusting one, you uppity self-righteous c__t" and "Mind your own fucking business, why don't you?" would have only been the beginning. But I've never really been known for my diplomacy. ;-)<BR/><BR/>The sheer nerve of some people, especially know-it-all busybody biddies like your and urchingrey's examples, poking their nose into other people's business just so they can turn them up in disgust, is mindboggling and appalling. There's no point in taking the high road with them, they don't deserve that much consideration and it wouldn't register with them anyway. I hope she did get all indignant about you with somebody who has a clue and could point out that she was in the wrong to begin with.Nightfallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00711282713939330974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-55781363257653158062008-05-14T09:32:00.000-05:002008-05-14T09:32:00.000-05:00Compared to grabbing her throat and slamming her against the wall while her legs dangled and she sputtered.... yea, I think you got it right, you gave her just the amount of energy she deserved.Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01527123571625999061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-9915815079523798432008-05-14T07:31:00.000-05:002008-05-14T07:31:00.000-05:00I was so tempted to say the same words to the heartless tech yesterday during my two-year-old's EEG. <BR/><BR/>People like that need some more "fuck you's".Ceci Jones Schrocknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-55300622029851279992008-05-14T02:01:00.000-05:002008-05-14T02:01:00.000-05:00Don't bitches like that just leave you spluttering with their stupid cow-i-tude? <BR/><BR/>My daughter's monster is starting to become more obvious to both her and to other people as she gets older. I want to wrap her up in my arms and protect her from the world while at the same time taking a baseball bat to the teeth of anyone who DARES give her shit for stuff she would give her beloved dinosaurs to be able to control. So far it's still mostly little kids who say "Doesn't she talk?" But the day is coming when cows in restaurants will have opinions they think I need to hear. <BR/><BR/>Instead of giving them what they deserve, I'll probably be limited to saying "Fuck you." I would probably have stood there stunned into silence if not for your helpful suggestion. ;) "Fuck you" isn't very informative or educational, but it's more information about my kid than they deserve anyway. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing Schuyler with us. She's one hell of a kid.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-82496678947924944172008-05-13T23:01:00.000-05:002008-05-13T23:01:00.000-05:00Perfect reply. Nothing more to say other than karma is a bitch and will bite her in the ass.<BR/><BR/>Signed,<BR/><BR/>Widow of husband with ALS who drooled incessantly due to disease progressionLisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02925675911820358702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-13789933256869989492008-05-13T22:45:00.000-05:002008-05-13T22:45:00.000-05:00There are rare times that particular phrase is the only one that properly rises to the occasion. You did well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-11320605020101395902008-05-13T22:13:00.000-05:002008-05-13T22:13:00.000-05:00A friend of mine was using the restroom at the mall. Her daughter, Chelsea was unable to fit in the stall with mom due to her wheelchair. Chelsea has cerebral palsy. So, she sat right outside of the stall. A woman came in with her young daughter and the woman said, 'Look honey, that is what happens when you do drugs when you are pregnanat". My friend came out, got down on one knee and looked the little girl in the eye and explained how the umbilical cord got wrapped around Chelsea's neck causing the cerebral palsy. She did not grace the woman with a look at all. Some people simply suck!jmo.conshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06061580402078544275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-7135399450608228192008-05-13T16:23:00.000-05:002008-05-13T16:23:00.000-05:00Was she the one wearing the shirt?<BR/><BR/>http://bp1.blogger.com/_pnGKxbRjGJA/SCCCh_yEkhI/AAAAAAAAAM0/AbffEt8RXZ0/s1600-h/english5.jpgraquandthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17192589548763544906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-22461190794112898742008-05-13T15:15:00.000-05:002008-05-13T15:15:00.000-05:00No diggity. You served up the perfect retort. Even if she thought Schuyler was a normal kid who was just goofing around and acting gross it was not her place to comment.<BR/> I have been with my friend who has CP when average-looking middle-aged people has imitated her limping walk and laughed. My friend ignores these jerks but I usually flip them the bird and inform them that they are assholes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22878815.post-50499218553398318062008-05-13T12:52:00.000-05:002008-05-13T12:52:00.000-05:00Beth - yes I believe she did have a disabilty - it's called Dried up Cunt Syndrome or DUCS for short. Tragic, tragic disorder, I'm doing a walk for them this weekend.Lurker Chrisnoreply@blogger.com